Dear Kadence,

With your baby brother or sister's arrival coming up soon, I wanted to take a moment to write you. I am so concerned with how you will respond to another person living in our house. I know no matter what, you will love your brother or sister. I know you will be a fantastic role model and source of guidance for him/her growing up. I trust that you guys will be close friends and be able to lean on each other and have fun together. It's the immediate reaction that has me worried. I don't want you to feel put out. I don't want you to feel resentment toward me, Daddy, or the baby. I am praying and planning as best I can, but truth be told, I don't know how things will change. Our goal is to do our best to give you as much attention as we can, and spend one on one time with you when possible. Right now, you sleep in our bed part of the night, and we wouldn't have it any other way. However, you normally sleep between us, but for safety reasons, we have to put the baby between us when he/she is born. Daddy has moved you over to his side between him and the wall, so you can adjust to that before the baby comes. You were fine with it, then I missed you so you spend a few more nights between us. Last night, we put you only by daddy. In the middle of the night, you started crying for me, and you waved to me. It was so touching, yet heartbreaking at the same time. The funny part is you normally want Daddy in the middle of the night if you wake up. Why did you want me all of a sudden, I wonder. Could you have some sense that things are changing? I have no idea.

K, you are the sweetest little girl. You wave and blow kisses to most everyone, you share your toys (most of the time), you are always happy. You even get upset when I go to the doctor and she examines my belly...you don't mind too much when the doctors check you out, but when it's me, you get concerned. It's so sweet! Also, you rock and swing your babies, you pat their backs, you are just so gentle and loving. I hope and pray that carries over quickly to your sibling.

We love you so much. We are happy to be expanding your role in life. Currently, you are a daughter. Soon, you'll be a sister as well. I hope you love being a sister!! Thank you for being our first born child.

Love Always,
Mommy